A WW? (3)

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In case you can't find it, here is the post from Fade:

"""The last two comments hit the target I think - she sounds narcissistic and enmeshed with your D. I have seen this happen in many cases, it has always been the mom but in most cases I have seen like this its usually its the dad instigating divorce because the W has persistently pushed him away from the family and kids, and usually with a heavy dose of parental alienation to boot. Basically, if this is true for her, then she sees your D as an extension of herself, and not as a separate person. These are the people that go off the deep end in custody battles, so you need to be very careful here. I would highly suggest seeing an attorney ASAP so you know your rights and are ready to get custody orders in place.

If you still want to save this, then she needs to see major consequences immediately. In my mind that is doing everything possible to cut off your support, cutting off as much $$ as possible, car insurance, phone and internet, and moving towards selling the house or going for sole use of the home etc. And while exposure is a big debate here, in your case I think it is extremely important that important people in your lives know what she is up to before this devolves into a custody battle. Because I think you need to fully expect that she is going to accuse you of doing terrible things to both her and your D, and if she is the first person to set the narrative, you will be shocked how many people will believe and support her. You probably dont believe she is capable of telling a court room full of strangers and family that you beat her or molested your own daughter, but this has happened to one degree or another in every single one of these case I have dealt with. None of those dads would have believed it either, and many ended up losing absolutely everything as these charges, mug shots and rumors never go away.

Of course the single biggest, and most important action you need to take is to get temporary custody orders to prevent her from taking your D out of the home, because without orders in place there is nothing you can do to stop her from doing so. And when she does, you may need to wait months for emergency hearings before you see her again, meanwhile your D is getting the full parental alienation treatment. It is orders of magnitude easier to keep her from taking your D than getting your D back. However, you have to know that this is the shot across the bow that will trigger your W full fury. So dont threaten her in advance, you just need to do it. And from then on, you need to be in full protection mode, recording all interactions, logging your activities every hour of the day, and locking your room at night.

Sounds scary, and it is, but if you protect yourself now, you will not have to deal with any of this later.

Good luck"""