Confused on What to Do

[Brubeck]

Thanks for the kind words, Eagle.

I don't know what my W was trying to do by being naked in front of me. I know it wasn't sexual, but even if she would have invited me into the shower there is no way I was going in there.

Same here. My W came home drunk about a month ago and tried to entice me - she wanted me to pursue her and only because she was drunk. There was no way I would entertain the idea, not with her still having an A (she doesn't know I know).

At that moment I did not find her attractive at all. That might have been the first time in my life that I was standing in front of a naked attractive woman and had absolutely no desire for her.

Same here. For my W, the crazy exercise and starving herself has paid off, she's lost a lot of weight and looks great - but I have no urge to touch her whatsoever.

The lying thing is driving me crazy. She is doing it with such ease now... I could tell some things didn't add up with her story. I didn't call her out on them, but it just didn't make sense. She had basically told a similar story about her trip to a friend who was over on Saturday and I heard the story. Last night, she told me somewhat the same story but key details were different. I don't know what she has told others, but I know she is rewriting our history.

I notice the same things with my W. The very wise job replied to one of my posts and said that if your W's friends have any sense they will notice the gaps as well. Hopefully, someone else will point this out to her. My W just got a job, first one in 11 years. In the span of two days the start date has changed 3 times. I think she's so anxious about this that she can't keep track of it.

Also...

I was thinking about your reply that your W's only interest in the boys is going into Supermom mode when something really bad happens. I asked because my W has withdrawn from my sons big time. She is only affectionate by way of buying them a lot of sweets and being super happy when she's about to leave or when she's coming home. That's it. She ignores them most of the day save for dressing and feeding them.

I think a MLC Mother does something to fool themselves that they still care about their kids, even though the other parent may be doing most of the day to day work. For your W, the 'Supermom' moments she gets are such a thing - she's telling herself she's still an active parent. This also makes sense if she's a business / management type at her job because you have to deal with obstacles and setbacks all day long, so responding to emergencies becomes second nature.