I am not sure about his wingspan. And as far as the second opinion, X would never listen to me anyway. When I asked him what he planned to do he just said he's going to live out the rest of his life making the best of things. His first goal is to re-connect with his son from his first marriage. His second is to live long enough to see S graduate from high school and lastly he hopes he can live long enough to give D away at her wedding one day (which will hopefully not happen for at least 15-20 years).
Maybe this diagnosis will make him evaluate things and straighten up his relationships with his kids. But more likely he will use it to gain sympathy and expect the kids to cater to him. I think that's why he used it on me. Didn't work.
On another topic, a dear friend of mine is going through almost the exact same thing I went through nearly 5 years ago. Her beloved husband of 16 years decided he was done. Is living with another woman and has filed and wants out. She feels like she has been kicked in the stomach. I am doing my best to be there and to help her "DB" as best as possible. It is hard not only to watch a dear friend go through the agony of what I went through but it is also causing me to go through the emotions of the breakup. Not that I want X back, of course, but just the mourning and loss comes back. It's incredibly sad to go through it yourself, but almost worse when you can only sit back and watch your dear friend endure it.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
