May Divorce Be With You

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Absolutely nothing is set in stones, the divorce is just a piece of paper.

that she might come back in a few years.

As long as she doesn't find another man there is still a lot of hope and if I show her that I am a rock and that I am committed to the family no matter what, she might come back to her senses even faster

Is this a healthy attitude? You have been going through a tough situation even longer than me and your wife has treated you just as badly. I would ask you to consider really letting her go, and none of this talk about 'she might come back as long as there is another man'. What about you? You deserve to be happy, and keeping this hope alive of her changing her mind even after the divorce is finalized ... that is not helping you to move forward.

And what if three years from now she finds another man? What will you do then? You will have wasted three years secretly hoping that she would change her mind. Let her go emotionally, accept that the divorce is happening and she is not changing her mind.

If she does change her mind it will come as a surprise, and you will deal with it then. But move forward and get healthy for you, and for your kids.