Sounds like her mother wanted you to rescue her daughter quite a bit. Did/do you see yourself as the rescuer? Both of you lived life kind of on the edge as teens/early 20's and both of you cheated on others along the way and probably didn't give much thought to how it would hurt those you cheated on. However, as you matured, you grew up and she's still stuck back in the 90's. She has never had to face her issues on her own and now those issues have come back to haunt her. Will history repeat itself? Maybe, but what I see is that she continues to hit the break wall and hasn't learned the lessons that life is providing to her and until she does, she will continue to repeat them over and over. Hopefully she'll hit the brick wall hard enough to make her focus on herself and deal w/her issues.
I am so sorry for all of the pain that you have endured over the years. Let's hope and pray she grows up and becomes the mature woman that she is meant to be.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
