MLC, WAW or WW?? Who really knows? Help...pls

[RosaLinda]

This behavior of defiance, is your W's way of testing your reaction. You know the scenario of the schoolyard bully who will taunt you to see how you will react? At first, you may try to ignore the bully's taunting. The bully doesn't stop. Instead the taunting increases. The bully is daring you (sometimes in front of other people) to see what you will do about it. How will you react?

If you try to ignore your W's communication with OM, then she increases the dare by telling you what they are doing. It as if saying, "What'cha gonna do about it? You gonna run away and cry? Go tell your mamma?". .

Then, she switches to some other tactic to see what type of reaction she gets from it. You want to know how to read her? This is your W taunting you, to see how you will react. How far can she go..........how much will you take........

But what is Roe supposed to do when his wife taunts him Sandi? When a kid in the schoolyard has enough of being bullied, he or she usually takes a swing at the bully.

I think Roe should continue to detach and pull away from her. Do you think he should he take a stand, give her an ultimatum, kick her out?