Confused on What to Do

[Eagle11]

Brubeck,

I have read through your thread and we do have a lot of similarities. My heart goes out to you and your family.

I don't know what my W was trying to do by being naked in front of me. I know it wasn't sexual, but even if she would have invited me into the shower there is no way I was going in there. At that moment I did not find her attractive at all. That might have been the first time in my life that I was standing in front of a naked attractive woman and had absolutely no desire for her.

The lying thing is driving me crazy. She is doing it with such ease now. Although like I stated in my previous post I could tell some things didn't add up with her story. I didn't call her out on them, but it just didn't make sense. She had basically told a similar story about her trip to a friend who was over on Saturday and I heard the story. Last night, she told me somewhat the same story but key details were different. I don't know what she has told others, but I know she is rewriting our history. If she told them the truth that our marriage had gotten a little stale and that she was tired of some of my issues but I was trying to work on them it would not be a good enough story to justify a D. I'm sure she has told all kinds of lies about me or exaggerated the truth to make all this justified. Also, I am sure she hasn't told anybody about the A. That would not make her look good, and she has to make sure I'm the reason our marriage is in shambles and not her.