The journey for some has been short so far and for others very long. I'm almost 8 months since separation now.
I would not say I am detached yet but I'm certainly not the quiet nice guy I was 2 months ago. We all go about this our own way with help from what we can relate to on here. I have followed Sandi's advice the most as it speaks to me.
For the last month now I took Sandis advice and now take each day as if I was the one who left and not my W. It has made things so much easier. Don't get me wrong it is so hard as the interactions I have with my W are actually fun and we both get along great which is the stupid part of all this. So i am sacrificing those interactions for the greater goal of a R.
The point is detached or not do what works. When it doesn't work maybe try another approach. I'm with you though CT I think being fully detached comes at the point when you are fully willing to move on in life and leave them in the past. I am closer now then ever. It is still a daily struggle but i can see that my life can be great without her. That's the goal anything else is a bonus.
Again great post CT you seem to be in a good place with your thoughts.
ME- 31 W-25 T-5 M-3 D2 ILYBNILWY and moved out - FEB16 W seeing someone else - JUL16
