Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 4)

[AndrewP]

This site is definitely part of the public domain. I've noticed that google will spider the site within minutes of a post just search:
myhandle site:divorcebusting.com
and you'll see what any amateur sleuth will find. I think most of us are fairly careful and it would require a subpoena to get the login information I'm sure to "prove" who is posting. With that said I don't worry about it too much. There have been in fact a few times I've wondered if W has been here and a number of things I've written that I wished she would read.

As far as the trip goes I can tell you my own story. I had a week long business trip at the end of May. I knew the A was in full bloom and my "Plan A" was to follow the DB philosophy and go dark and have her "miss me". On the other hand I was terrified that she'd take my absence as an opportunity to put the A on full force. I was also very worried that she'd use my absence to strip the house and move out. What I ended up doing was acting like normal. I'd send her a good morning message, a good night message, small updates through the day etc. I was on Messenger with her one night and actually got a couple of responses before she cut off. No responses to my other messages at all.

When I got back home W was almost literally shaking with stress - there were a couple of other things happening at the time as well that could have added to it. She said that she had had a horrible week - I asked no details. Did I "ruin her fun"? Don't know. Did I set back my DBing? Don't know. "I" felt good that I had behaved like a responsible husband. Did it make any difference? Probably not.