Avoiding conflict is her thing mostly now. Of course she is allowed to poke and try to start conflict, but when a reasonable question is asked of her she wants to "not make things tense". I have been pointing it out saying that avoiding tension and conflict is how we made more problems between us. She doesn't argue with this, but uses her goto "I don't know" response which is her number one avoidance tactic! I forgot to mention I went to church (Christian). I haven't been in 5 years. W was supposed to go with me but she backed out thinking I would too, which fits with my old behavior. I went without her. She had been very cold earlier so I expected more of the same when I got home. But she actually apologized for her attitude earlier, she made me some food and was happy and talking. Hmm, that's different.
