Confused on What to Do

[Eagle11]

Brubeck, thanks for the advice. I got a chance to read over your posts a little last night and I feel for you. As bad I feel I am having it right now, doesn't seem to compare to you. Maybe my W is just warming up and it will get worse the longer this goes, but I hope not.

Thanks for the advice on the 180. That's what I am really trying to figure out here. I guess I am just really trying to figure out if this is a WW or MLC. I read a little bit about it last night and it looks like you take some different approaches depending on what she is. That is my big hurdle right now trying to figure that out.

You asked how much my wife is engaged with the boys. My W loves the boys but working so much makes her not really there physically or mentally for the day to day things. She is ready for when a crisis happens (she turns into Supermom) but the simple act of cooking dinner or reading a bedtime story she just doesn't do anymore. She basically comes home from work, gets a snack to eat (she basically doesn't eat anymore and has lost over 20 lbs in a month), then she will sit on the couch and watch tv or do work on her computer. After an hour or so she goes to bed. I can't remember the last time she actually played with either of them.

Once again thanks for the advice and I am going to read more of your thread and get up to date on you situation. Thanks for the support.