Loving someone going through their journey is hard. "This hurts me more than it does you" makes sense here. I want my W to come home, eventually. The woman I knew and fell in love with, and wanted to live with forever.....and someone who has finally learned how to be happy with who she is. I guess you can put it this way. You can love where your home is, but want to completely redo it and make it into your dream home.
Yes, it is very hard. The 'homecoming' is a great analogy. When I married her, we were out on the town that night. Just her and I. She told me to take my ring off and read the inside of it. It said "...to never leave home again." I asked her what this meant, she took hers off and it read "A promise..."
She had lost her ring while moving - this was a full 8 months before any of the sitch began. We were going to replace it, but did not prioritize. In the first month of our S, her and I were having an R talk. She said that the promise remained, that I was her home, and that she would always come back.
In hindsight - don't wait for me, but leave the door unlocked is what she was saying. So, yes, loving the one who left. Quite a challenge RSG. Sht, just writing that I was overcome w/ a wave of love for her. But, I am stronger now. I know that love is for the prisoner inside and not for the WW.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
