Need direction

[Tony68]

Not much to report as far as my W goes, she did move apartments this past week, I've been keeping communication to a minimum. Younger son is back with me for his fortnight and been good to have him back.

Continuing to learn and be encouraged from this amazing community. Some huge breakthroughs this past week. Firstly the power of detachment is a life changing concept- used first with my wife and now has overflowed to other areas of my life. For example, I've found that by detaching from my boys ( talking about an unhealthy attachment that produces fear based parenting) my relationship with both of them has been much better.

I've read ... this past week, really helped me to understand how, through fear, I was trying to CONTROL my environment, my wife tried to tell me I was controlling and I couldn't see how! Feeling so free at the moment because of detaching from people, things and some emotions.

Much of our grief as LBS's is fear based.. Besides concern for our children and how they will fare from all the pain they endure, the rest we can rise above, and even with our children, if we are strong we can lead them through it. I know my kids are looking to me to be strong...so at least for their sake, strong I'll be!