Just working the process, but wondering when......

[cbtdad]

So things have been moving along
Just holding to plan and really watching my emotions and keeping my cool
Seems to be paying off. We had a good weekend, W came to fantasy football draft with me on Saturday. We had an interesting text conversation this afternoon after she said she was stressed out
He was the conversation:
Me: "Why don't you feed S something for dinner and I will get you some sushi on the way home
Would that help just a little?"

W: "I don't need pity Cbtdad. I'll be ok"

Me: "Ok just trying to put a little smile on your face
Do whatever you want"

W: "I know. I appreciate that. I just don't want you feeling like you have to fix anything"

Me: "I learned months ago Crispin that I can't fix things for you and that's it's not my job to make you happy
All I can do is be there to listen and maybe make things easier sometimes
So with that being said do what you want"

W: "Why are you being pissy?!?"

Me: "I'm not being pissy
I asked if you would like me to pick up sushi
Why? Because maybe for a small moment it would take your mind off of things
You responded negatively, at that point I said do whatever you want for dinner
Then made another statement to which I replied
Not sure why you think I'm being pissy
But that's not my intention"

W: "Ok well I'm being sensitive. I'm sorry. I just hate feeling like you are upset with me for something I wish I had more control over"

W: "I think I'm going to go to work tonight. They need someone and I need to keep busy right now"

Me: "I am not upset with you at all. Not sure where you got that idea
Do what you feel you need to do"

W: "I just felt like it"

W: "Thanks for understanding. I really do see all the changes in you and it helps. Otherwise I don't know where I would be or what I would do"

Me: "thank you"


So there was definitely some interesting things I heard from W in that exchange.
She never says sorry. That was definitely surprising. It was obviously nice to hear her say she is noticing the changes as well.
I decided to stay in our bedroom instead of guest bedroom tonight so the garage door does wake me up when she gets in early. I sent her the following text:

Me: "Staying in our bedroom tonight
Just a heads up"

W: "ok. That's cool with me"


Not sure what to think of where she seems to be with things, but we do have a MC session tomorrow afternoon.
My plan was to talk to her about her fears and let her know that I still have fears as well.
Guess we will see