Time to Love and discover myself

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I just can't believe so much insanity. The land of MLC is pure hell, it is a long walk on the valley of the shadows, literally.

I'd rather be the LBS any day of the week than the MLCer.

You'd walk through hell for your husband, right?

Would you walk through hell not knowing if your husband would come back with you?

Don't react, no more relationship talks and continue as you have been. When he sees that you aren't reacting to his crazy making behavior, he just may start to realize that you are moving forward and he'll need to start thinking about what he needs to do to regain his trust. They need to work hard to regain your trust. If it's too easy, then they'll continue to say and do whatever. He has to earn your trust and respect.

I agree completely.

Job is right you're putting a lot more expectations on these small moments of him being nice.

I think you have a few options. The one that Job suggested above.

1 - Don't react.

2 - You can live in the moment, if you can kill your expectations. If you can enjoy the small temporary happy moment with him, realize that it was just that moment and that tomorrow might not happen, that he might be a turd tomorrow. If you can just enjoy that moment without building on it.
But that is hard, without practice. That takes skill.

3 - Withdraw. It's like don't react, but with more gusto. Don't put yourself out there. Yeah he is being nice, but so what? Don't be as available for him. Pull back.

Job, not trying to step on your toes.