I'm sure you could tell her a thing or two. When death comes knocking at the door, it always surprises me how people act and what they think they should get.

I wouldn't worry too much at the moment. Your xh is in good hands and the medical staff will take very good care of him.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.