For me, being called abusive and then later having my words distorted to make it look like I was that crazy mom trying to keep poor hubby away from son was REALLY traumatizing. It made me really question myself. It made it difficult for me to make decisions. Having the person I trusted and committed myself to villify me the way he did was probably the worst part. I feel really damaged because if it. It's like I'm not sure how to be anymore.
This ^^^ is how I feel. My W, ILs, and her L are vilifying me. It really rocks your world. Sometimes I am not sure who I am anymore. It really makes you question yourself. It is fascinating how we can be brainwashed by others, but it is very difficult to brainwash ourselves. Why is it that we trust what our Ss say - or at least are very affected by it - but we cannot convince ourselves of our true merit. I suppose if we could, we would not be on these boards right now. Everyone is here because at some level we were damaged by the things our S did and/or said to us.
