Budding

[mustardseed]

Rootless is a great way of describing Xh. That is exactly where the lack of connection was. He is cannot establish roots. I wonder if that is partly an after effect of his parents' D. He has always had a strained relationship with his father. His mother moved across the country when he went away to college and bounced around aunts and uncles and other homes until we settled in together. Maybe the huge conflict with us was my deep roots and his tumbleweed. Every time I tried to set roots he tried to pull them up again. And then I see how quite literally he did that by digging up my grandmothers bulbs and tossing them.

Man, how far can I take this garden metaphor? Lol. But your comment gave me such an aha moment. I really hope my kids dong suffer from his same affliction. With the new custody arrangement I hope they find a place to set roots. This passed year they told me that niether house feels like home and that made me sad. But then they said grandma and grandpas house feels like home. So there is that one constant. Today my son told me that now that my stuff is here the new house finally feels like home. Time to set our roots.