This pressure I have been feeling is obviously encouraged by WW. I have a healthier view of happiness responsibility now, but she knows how to sneak those old thought patterns back in with guilt and blame. I see that I'm still susceptible to these tactics, but I'm getting better at spotting them.
That is how she manipulates you. She pulls the guilt card on you, to get her own selfish way.
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The avoiding conflict part is what I am putting a lot of work into right now. I am not holding back anymore, but I am also not out of control angry like I have been in the past. I can talk with a confident firm voice when needed without yelling or being disrespectful, which is a huge deal for me. Of course confirmation and support here has been helping with that!
I think avoiding conflict is a pattern a lot of H's fall into, and it really causes the W to become very bossy, demanding, entitled, etc. Don't be afraid of her dramatics. When she sees you won't back down from her screaming, she'll bring on the tears. Just remember it's all manipulation. Any female can shed tears for a dramatic effect. Don't act sorry for her. Don't comfort her. Hold the line and don't back down and give in to what she wants.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
