Confused on What to Do

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Summaries tend to be long and helpful.

OK, first off Cadet gave you a great list to spend some of your time reading through. There is a lot of great information in there. It'll help you pass the time too.

Its really up to you to determine if it is an MLC, as no one here is a professional. Although after saying that I believe there is a huge difference between a WAW and an MLCer.

Despite what she said about sex...are you going to be ok if her EA turns into a PA? To be honest, no matter what your answer is right now, you'll actually know when it happens.
I hope that you can still work on your marriage if it goes that way.

I feel I need to confront her but I am not really sure how to do that. I know this EA needs to end to have any chance to heal our marriage, but I don't know how that could happen.

Confronting her about it isn't going to snap her out of this. She isn't going to be grateful that you know, and she will change the password.

Which...would be good.

What you are doing is snooping, and its both addictive and harmful to you. You are going to have all sorts of reason to justify doing it...and all it is going to do is hurt you and your mental health.

Knowledge is power, yes. But in these cases knowledge is also pain. If you want to save your marriage stop snooping, if you want a divorce keep snooping.

A few questions for you.

Is she seemingly confused, or uncertain?

Is she dressing up or acting younger, working out more?

Has she re-written any of your married history?

Is she doing more fun things and forgetting her responsibilities?

OK and a few questions about you:

What are you doing for yourself? Are you keeping active?

Have you let yourself go since being married?

Do you have a decent real life support group? A few friends you can relax with?

A warning about friends and family. They will more than likely tell you to move on. They do this because they don't want to see you hurt and this is the easiest way to them to move on, you don't deserve this, blah, blah, blah.
Tell them that you want their support but that you want them to support your decision not to be constantly told to move on.
Be frank with them and if they can't do that then you need to limit your time around them if you are willing to stand for your marriage.

Welcome to the best worst place you can be.