Me and Midlife Wife and Midlife

[ericmsant2]

CT1118

I proposed to my IC this morning my question of how to communicate w/ MLC that I feel s4 being around OM is detrimental.

As you have pointed out, you have already mentioned this to her. Why do it again.

Said I knew it would not hurt him today, but potential to cause his future self in his own R's the inability to function.

How do you know that his future would be negatively impacted by this? IMO, you don’t. He just may end up getting along with OM. Believe it or not – YOUR ability to be a wonderful dad has NOTHING to do with OM.

But, the IC did suggest saying this: "I know we are separated and I am not judging your actions. I would like for you to know that our son has told me you had a friend come by for a sleepover twice this week and he was very confused by this. I am offering that if you ever feel compelled to have this person over while it is your night to watch our son, you can call me and if I am able to, I will come by and pick him up for the night."

I would not bother saying anything. That said, if your son wants to come over to YOUR house when OM is around I would just have him confirm that is would be okay with his mom.

CT, I may be wrong here…but having been in your position before, I feel like you may be trying to keep the kids out of this, which I get. I also know that chance are YOU will not be able to do that. She is going to do what she wants to do.