It's interesting that you see the old place as tawdry and lacking the essence of a home. The heart of that home has gone and that's you.
Know others do see that, it's obvious. Your WH is rootless and now dependent on OW for good graces, no matter how much he wishes it to be otherwise. If he is in her house, with another man's life it's shallow. It has no substance.
OW has a long way to go, she too has an ex and public deprecation. Forever tarnished as the one who was part of breaking up two marriages and causing havoc. Whether it is or no the OW is seen as guilty.
Good luck to the unlucky pair.
Your achievement is remarkable Msd. I applaud you and the great strength you have shown, fortitude and bravery.
Stand tall Msd there is much good to come for you.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW