I really need to figure this out. Now I have thoughts in my head that she wants me to fight for her or something. Be the opposite of what I have always been. Don't be so passive, take control. I'm thinking right now that maybe she thinks I don't really care about her if I am ok with her having an EA and I am not doing anything about it.
Of course I could be wrong and I need to keep my distance.
Sorry for rambling so much today, but my oldest son is home from school today because he is sick so I have nothing really to do but think about all of this.
M39, W36 T12, M10 S6,S2 Discovered EA 8/8 that started 7/31
She told me when we had a talk earlier this month that I was controlling. I think it had to do with money. Basically, she spends a lot of it. She has always been this way. She was in big debt when I met her and I always feared that we would end up that way again.
Anyway this got me thinking how I feel she has been the controlling one in our relationship. She encouraged me to get her a ring earlier than I would have. She was the one who convinced me to buy our first house when we lived in AZ, because she had to have a house. I tried to tell her it was too far from work and we were overpaying, but she had to have a house. She was the one that had us move from AZ to FL for her job. She was the one who realized she didn't like her job in FL and had us move to a job in NY, where she knew I would hate living. She was the one who decided we would have a 2nd child. I wasn't sure if I wanted one at the time but she basically seduced me (this is one controlling thing I am happy she did). Now, she is the one controlling this affair and possible divorce.
Sorry for the vent. I just needed to say that!
M39, W36 T12, M10 S6,S2 Discovered EA 8/8 that started 7/31
