Maybs - Pt3

[maybs]

So I have a question and would appreciate some advice on this matter from anyone with an opinion basically.

I am getting conflicting advice for dealing with my WW. On the one hand I know what DB says to do with the whole 180 and GAL and detach and distance and everything.

On the other hand I have people close to me and my IC encouraging me to write this letter (which I have already written for therapeutic purposes) but to also give W the letter. Basically the letter outlines some of the mistakes that I made in our marriage and apologizes for those things and explains some of the things that I contributed to the marriage that negatively impacted our relationship and my W and how I have been working to address them. And then it also says something along the lines of "I wish we could reconcile but I respect that that is not something you are interested in and if this divorce is truly what you wish I will not fight you on it."

My IC and others think it's important for me to let her know that I would be willing to R given the whole crying thing she was doing last week and the way some of the things I have said might have sounded to her...

I just don't know which way to go on this one. I feel like I can see benefits of either and negatives of either. I would hate to leave her feeling like I'm okay with all of this and don't want to R but maybe that's what she needs to feel???

I just don't know. I feel so conflicted and confused about what to do...

HELP