You have to find a way to phrase your sentences so that it doesn't look like you are chastising her for her behavior. What the IC suggested would have been fine had she been rational, but she's operating on emotions right now, so you have to temper your comments to make it sound like you are offering up a suggestion and allowing her to make good decision.
I know, it's crazy, but that's the way their minds work while in crisis.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
