Cld - she is 40, but will be 41 in three weeks. Of course she hates this and in the beginning of the S, when I cared about such things, believe she mentioned lying about her age to her OM who is 9 years younger. I am 6 mo. older than her.
I hear the voice on the phone call. I did not call b/c I did not wish to empower her as to feeling that I could not handle it on my own. He gave no signs of an allergic reaction so it was not quite an emergency. When she finally did reach me, her self-assessment of telling him such things was far worse than what I would have said to her. And, the texts are a way to leave her be IMO. And yes, she very much experienced things like this as a child.
Time frame - what is time frame? I am joking of course.
So, would like an opinion on this. It sounded logical. I proposed to my IC this morning my question of how to communicate w/ MLC that I feel s4 being around OM is detrimental. Said I knew it would not hurt him today, but potential to cause his future self in his own R's the inability to function. She told me what you all did and what I knew - there is no way to make her understand the damage she can/is causing.
But, the IC did suggest saying this: "I know we are separated and I am not judging your actions. I would like for you to know that our son has told me you had a friend come by for a sleepover twice this week and he was very confused by this. I am offering that if you ever feel compelled to have this person over while it is your night to watch our son, you can call me and if I am able to, I will come by and pick him up for the night."
And leave it at that. I am already quite used to saying such matter of fact messages to people (personnel manager for over 11 years), including W.So, I have no worries about being distracted by potential anger or argument and fully able to resolve in the face of disruption by stating "I have made an offer, it will remain available.I am going to go now."
What do you all think of the IC's suggestion?
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
