May Divorce Be With You

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Hey I’ve been pretty silent lately because I’ve been trying to stay off the internet divorce forums as much as possible, and also cut down on stuff like listening to divorce podcasts and such. It’s a waste of time at this point for me, I’ve done so much research on the subject of ‘early stages of divorce’ I feel like I could write my own book. How many times can you read ‘it gets better, just give it time’ and ‘work on yourself’?

That being said, I do have some updates on my efforts to work on myself, which I’ll post later. I’ve been keeping busy and trying to live a healthy lifestyle.

One thing I did recently was I wrote up a ‘during and post-divorce to do list’. Things I want to do in my life before I get involved in any new serious relationships:

- Kick @ss at my job, really give it my all. Try to get a promotion or raise soon.
- Grow my side business - a mobile app development studio - to the point where it’s bringing in some sizable cash flow.
- Really get in touch with myself, through therapy/meditation/journaling, whatever it takes. Really understand what it is inside of me that contributed to the demise of my first marriage. Let go of whatever was beyond my control or her fault in our divorce situation, and work to improve myself so this situation does not happen again.
- Make sure that the kids are alright through all of this, spend as much quality time with them as I can, and attend all of their school activities.
- Get my finances together post divorce. Pay off my huge legal fees and establish a savings cushion.
- Buy a new house.
- Get a dog.
- Play guitar every day, write songs, record my second album.
- Once the doctor says its alright - start exercising again, watch my diet, and get back in shape.
- Go to at least one social function a week. Make new friends, establish new social networks.