Trying to Figure Things Out

[Eagle11]

I guess I'm worried if I do the wrong thing right now, it might drive her away for good.

Well have you ever grabbed a wet bar of soap?

The tighter you squeeze the harder it is to hold.

Also if you let something go and it comes back to you then you know it is yours.
If it flys away then you know that it was never yours to begin with.

Cadet, thanks for the advice. I actually think I have been doing good the last couple of weeks. I haven't tried to pressure her and I haven't pursued her. The only thing I've told her is I hope she gets her problems figured out (she is going to therapy) and that I need to work on myself. Then if this happens, I wanted to see if we could give it another shot. We've had this conversation maybe 3 times in the last month, but other than that I have kept my distance (even though we still live in the same house). We are basically living as roommates and don't talk about much except the kids.

I guess I am still just trying to figure out if I should tell her all that I know and if I do how should I tell her? That's my problem right now. I know that if I keep my mouth shut the EA/PA will just continue and that will be worse. I also know that it will drive me crazy knowing this "secret" and not doing anything about it.