I agree that this situation is sad. Every single one on this board is sad.
But I caution you about your opinion of it being "unnecessary". From where you sit, of course, thats your opinion. I think my sitch was unnecessary. I imagine every poster here believes that their sitch wasnt necessary. But in the eyes of our spouses or ex-spouses, it's the only way they can see things moving. So to them it is totally necessary.
How can you work to better empathize and understand her needs?
