Mia,

Glad you returned to post an update. He's saying and doing the typical MLC stuff.

He wants you to file for divorce because you then have to pay for it, as well as it would make him look like the good guy and be able to say "well, she filed". As for saying negative things about you, what can he say? You didn't abandon your family, you didn't go out there and do the stuff he's done? He's trying to manipulate you into filing. If you want to file, then do so, but I would sit back and let him do the dirty work, if you can stand to wait it out. The divorce decree won't change much of anything because he'll still be in crisis and saying and doing stuff. The only thing the decree will do is protect you and your children from any debt he incurs, etc. Also it will free both of you to move on w/your lives and find someone else to love and hopefully have a relationship...but again, it's your call to file first or not.

I have merged your two threads together since your previous thread had less than 20 postings.

Last edited by job; 08/29/16 06:54 AM. Reason: Merged threads
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