I'm glad to hear that your son is okay and you got him in to see a physician. The poor little guy. I can just imagine how awful he felt. I can understand why he didn't want to see a doctor after what he was told about a shot.
Now, about your wife, do not rely on text messages. Pick up the phone and call her. Hopefully she'll pick up the phone when it rings or vibrates.
As for your wife, just leave her be as much as possible. She may act out very similar to what she was exposed to as a child/young adult, but there is no guarantee that she'll end up doing what her parents did...the outcome is hers to figure out, just as the time frame is, i.e., it could be longer or it could be shorter. There's no way to tell. In other words, there's no guarantee when she'll return or if one or both of you both opt to go your separate ways and share joint custody.
I would like to add to what Cadet posted to you on how the MLCer detaches from others. The usual order of detachment occurs as follows: the LBS, children, pets, friends and family. When they begin to wake up, they reconnect in the opposite order. The LBS is the last one. Also, they do a lot touch and goes along the way, so don't be fooled by them into thinking that they are in the final stages of their crisis. The touch and goes are to see if you are still out there waiting for them and wanting a reaction from you. Continue as you have been when these occur.
Continue to move forward and I hope the little one is feeling much better today.
