Hi Bea, Thanks for posting - I've been thinking about you and your long-running post-MLC saga.
I'm now more than 5 years post, and no sign of any form of insight / realisation from xh.
It seems to me that mlc-ers do tend to 'come back' to their family in some way or another at some point - from what I've read here in many posts.
However, as you know, this can take a long, long time and, when they do return, it may not be with much insight / growth.
I feel more or less indifferent to xh now, but so sorry for my kids.
Effectively, it is as if we never existed. Not sure how kids will ever get over this form of bizarre abandonment.
At this stage, your experience of your xh as being nicer, wanting to have some connection with his family, and also realising that he behaved 'monstrously' is something I can only dream of for my kids.
Something like this may eventually come, but I've learned that it's a waste of time to keep wondering when it might happen. A pretty basic lesson, I suppose - you can only control yourself; but a useful life lesson nevertheless.
