Being good at disagreement

[J5K]

Zues,

It doesn't matter who the next person is. What matters is that you both connect and communicate. M is work.
You, I and others on this board own 50% of that work.
You still DB, validate and do all the positive things that you learned from every marriage book you have read.
You categorize three types of partners/relationships in the future. Labeling will not make a difference on how healthy the R or M is. What will make a difference is hearing your partner and how you take action on what you hear.

Although you will have to learn how to behave differently with your new partner, at least you have a baseline from a past R and can assess the difference and build on that. Will it be more difficult to assess than if you reconciled with your ex because your new partner may have different a different love language or different needs/wants? Maybe.

The good thing is you are more educated on relationships now and will be able to recognize those wants/needs quicker than you did in your last R.