Why am I doing this? She really is such an awful person right now.
that's why you're doing this. because it's right now. It hasn't been "always" or "most of the time" its "right now" that she's in this crazy alien mode. It wont be forever. Regardless of R or not, she will not be this awful person for ever.
stay strong! you're doing great! way to not take the bait on the comment she made!
