Cherry, h is filing. Working on me

[Cherry]

I can't help but feel I'm in a bit of a hopeless situation. I don't have much to work with. Speaking with others and there db coaches suggestion to strike a friendship with their spouse; I did this the first time round when I was successful- I gave him glimpses of the woman he met- and I believe that brought us closer. Right now, it's all very seperate, there is zero interaction between us. He's rarely home, and if he is, it's usually a flying visit before he goes elsewhere. I feel like I'm in a holding pattern where we have no communication and lead completely seperate lives. Or is this where I should be? Surely there's no chance of reconciliation this way.

I know I should be taking the focus off him in the meantime and concentrate on myself, which I am. I'm keeping busy, I'm seeing people. I'm reading up to make sure I have better skills to listen and validate. I'm looking after myself the best that I can do.

I guess there is just some confusion in the air too, that he appears to want to get the d done as quickly as possible. But yet it seems he still doesn't have a place to move to. He says he's seen some places, but I don't think he has actually viewed any places.

Maybe I'm just trying to fix things that I can't.