Cherry, h is filing. Working on me

[Cherry]

Zeus, don't worry- I know not to show him anything kind of r related or even direct him in any kind of route to show him that I think he isn't thinking straight. I've read up quite a lot of validation, so I have made sure that all recent r conversations he has started, that I have made sure I haven't cut him up or not heard him out. I've allowed him to talk through his feelings, and whilst I haven't agreed I've listened and give a validation statement which acknowledges that his feelings are his own and that I have heard him. This is a 180 on my half as before, I would have argued it out with him, or told him what I think about his actions. I've been working on this for a good while, so some behaviours I had long since cut. After developing pnd after I had my last child- I realised I had lost all confidence, and become completely codependent, and very emotional. It took me quite a while to curb the codependency and lack of confidence- but this is something I had been working on a good while so was not even an issue. The showing emotions, eg crying had been a difficult one to tackle, being pregnant I'm quite full of emotions, but I'm getting there.
The only issue he had consistently threw at me was that he couldn't talk about something without me linking it to how I was feeling. This is something that I have consciously tried not to do, and although I've not had many conversations with him, this is something I could practice in every day conversations with other people.