MLC, WAW or WW?? Who really knows? Help...pls

[ROE]

Hi Linda, I was hoping to hear back from you.

I have no prior knowledge or experience with MLC, WAW or WW stuff. Well not direct anyway. This is my motive behind all of my research and joining this forum. To me the difference can be likened to splitting hairs. Maybe in the end trying figure out MLC vs WW vs WAW is futile excercise in overthinking the sitch. The next question is... are there different approaches that work better or worse based on the 3 behaviors mentioned? Boundaries, detachment and self management seem to be promoted in all. So I know I have to work on these things. But I'm also realizing there must be a difference with approach to a WW that seems to be unique to MLC. I think W whether MLC or not is wayward. I just really don't know if any of this work will really matter in the long run. So while I'm still in R mode I have to try something. Though my most recent efforts to detach and remove the emotional doormat behaviors seem to have made things more civil at home. I'm not of the opinion that she's interested in me but it's hard not to float that idea in my head every so often. Usually there is something she says or in her actions that nullifies any thought of progress.

As I mentioned in an earlier post. I won't move out and have no plans to file. Though I've pondered how much more disrespect I can tolerate before I feel driven to file myself. Once she moves out and makes her R(s) with OM known,, I will struggle hard with it all. But,,, my W has already committed to moving out and went to D. So this ball is already in play and I am absolutely sure she will follow up and take action on both of her threats/wants.

BTW, I unfortunately have given up the Mbr awhile back. Not sure why other than I was trying to be considerate and a thoughtful husband. In hindsight? I really don't know what I was thinking and I'm trying to shed the "Nice Guy" suit. Anyway, that's all I have for now.

ROE