Coconut, the forgiveness may not be a one time thing and then it's over. Every time you have a trigger, you will silently have to forgive her again. You won't have to tell her, but tell yourself that you forgive her.
It seems like it would be a very tall order for the LBS, doesn't? We have had post-DBers who would come back to tell the ending of their journey. It always seems so encouraging to those here who are struggling. Some couples make it, and some don't. However, those LBS's who have been able to forgive and adjust to their new lives.......speak with peace.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
