Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #3]

[Surfer]

FG

This resonates very much with me. My WW only saw these two options and you are right the third one is - to try something different. To use a wise approach of really understanding the issues at hand and dealing with them - working together on them.

However, your wife may have said similar things to mine when you ask her to try "I have tried", "There is nothing more to do" etc. Sadly, the things she has 'said' is her 'trying'. She probably has said everything she can, but tried not so muc, if at all. The only action she is most like have taken to change is to exit. Sad but it seems so common. I do wonder if this is about unconscious bias at times. I.e they might have unconsciously decided to leaves and they then slowly and steadily make their exit?

You letter makes sense. But a couple of points, perhaps she might not care for the bits about you missing the kids as much as them missing you? She might not even care anyway, perhaps she wants what she wants and that is it? Sorry but it's true, I don't think this letter or any letter would work in my Sitch. I hope it does for you of course.

Surfer.