You are destroying her fantasy. You're changing the game in her head, and she doesn't like it. She made you out to be the monster. Now you aren't. It makes her look really bad, since her actions where because you were a monster.
I think that's logical... does that make sense to you? I think the paradigm shift means she has to realize her errors. She doesn't want to face them, so she's trying to get you to behave as the monster she imagines in her head, and the monster she's probably told countless others.
When I finally gave up most of my anger, and started to treat EX-WW with 'neighborly' kindness, it made her think for a bit. She never stopped her OM activity, but I think her issues run deep, so I don't think we'll ever get back together, or she will not admit what she did was wrong. It's still my fault.
Your W's controlling actions and words will need to be talked about - I just don't have a clue on how to do it. I think in front of a counselor, on neutral ground. Until then, what you've done is commendable.
I feel sorry for my ex. And when I get the rapid-fire angry texts, I just ignore them, or respond hours later. Pithy responses.
I blocked my EX-WW and all her family on FB. Ignorance is bliss for me. I have her texts on mute on my phone - when I see them, I see them.
I want to let you know I'm pulling for you, buddy. Keep up the hard work you're doing.
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)
