Wow, do you ever get tired of walking on eggshells? Do you always need permission from your W to do anything with D? Clearly, she has no respect for you. Quite open about it. That will continue as long as you allow it. And until she respects you there is zero chance she will stop her waywardness.
Me:49 W:45 M:19 T:22 EA confirmed and ended 8/2014 S:19,17 D:9,5