Just wanted to address your statement about why certain comments suddenly slam you. I have experienced the same.
Sometimes out of the blue, I recall something h said (usually from the letter). It just takes tremendous time to get through those comments. What I have noticed is that they need to be turned and looked at each and every way. I have noticed, for me, absorbing and accepting the pain helps. I move forward a bit and then get slammed by it again. And the process repeats.
I assume this goes on until we fully heal from it.
Keep up the awesome work!
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
