By this I mean by saying. Hey I have a great idea. Who wants to be in charge today? Then do what they want.
Try it. I do this with the kids sometimes. It's fab just do it - if it works do it again. I think if you do that it empowers them. They therefore feel in control.
Hope that helps
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