lt0402 - I see so many similarities with your W and mine. Mainly in the crazy things they say. The only thing I find odd is your W is using "your" money to fund her L? and communication and outings with OM? that's interesting. My W wanted nothing to do with "my" or "our" money. Though she's in school full time and cant work she's managing to pay the mortgage, sitters, food, bills. If my W can do it, your capable W can too! (tell her to get a job!) It's pretty bothersome -as an outsider- to read about how your W doesn't trust you, wants to separate, say's you're not a very good dad, and yet she's perfectly fine sticking around!!!! Those words and actions are kind of "off". just my two cents this morning! -cheesyt