I read your threads, but do not often (if I have?) comment on them. So...full disclosure. I wonder if when women read the threads form the men here, are the disgusted by the women or do they relate? I would not know unless they comment. And, I do suppose it could work as: when some women read the threads from men here, are they disgusted by the men?
It may seem like low hanging fruit to say that I read your thread and the story of your man disgusts me. But in all honesty, that is not fair to you or him. You are just doing what I am doing and he is in some ways going through what my W is going through. Your story has added sensationalism b/c of your pregnancy. Please know, I am speaking matter of fact, not coldly right now.
That said, my WW has a BFF. One of a few, but this BFF as I have come to find out is the only one my WW confided in and who supported her in the A. Coincidentally, this BFF worked w/ a guy whom she became the OW to in his M. And.....his W was at home preggo w/ twins while he was hooking it up on the side. FWIW, my WW was highly critical of her at the time and it jeopardized their BFF status. Yet the moment my W went WW, back to pinky shakes and pom pom 's .
I met the dude once. I met him before I was LBS, and after he married his OW who was my W's BFF supposedly. He and I had a very verbal and public exchange of dislike which our respective women had to intervene with. He was a complete narcissist, which I called him out on, e.g. my W's BFF introduced us, I put my hand out for shaking, and he said " one second, my golf scores are being posted" and then he looked down at his cell. To which I said, "had you cared that much for your twins, we may not be speaking right now". You can imagine from here.
I don't think anything I have said just now helps, but I am trying to express I empathize. I'll keep following, but I think your H is low....I do hope one day you post a glorious self victory and that is looks like what feels right for you and that beautiful baby to be.
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
