A WW? (3)

[lt0402]

Thanks FG! I agree, I found myself over apologizing for everything when this all started. Now I'm very careful about what I say I'm sorry for. It's no longer used to try to avoid the W having a blowup. It's only used when I realize I've truly made a mistake.

I'm glad you're in a better spot now. The conversation with the IC is a great thing. I've had a couple phone calls like that over the past two months or so, where I felt like the entire situation was hanging in the balance. I'm coming to the realization that is not the case now and it really helps to keep things stable and steady for me.

Agree on the insensitivity part, but apparently our WWs do not. On growing a backbone, it's amazing the way the attitude changes when you show them you won't tolerate it. My W is still cold and stand offish, but is no longer outright disrespectful. Does that last? I don't know. But if it pops back up I feel ready to address it as much as necessary.

What I discussed with IC is my WWs visits to see OM and how I felt they were disrespectful as well. Those, apparently, I can't control and the IC continues to preach letting my W go (i.e. Detaching). Working on it, but I still get sucked into the over analysis of everything she does/says. Part of my nature to be that way on things I care about. I do feel like her actions affect me less with each passing day though. Figure that's a good thing, but we shall see. Regardless, in house S, and acting like we are roommates (as my WW) would put it is not fun.

To quote Happy Gilmore, "Get to your happy place FG!" Let us know how we can support you brother. Glad you're in a better place than you were earlier!