wife of 14 years walks out on her family

[Raul]

Yes cheesyt, here is my update:
August 16, WW calls me (home phone transferred call to my cellphone)very upset. Apparently someone in my family is calling out her doing on FB. I discontinued my FB so I told her that I don't know anything about it. She was screaming at me. Then the magic happened. She convinced me, I record all of our conversations, that all of this was my fault. I actually apologize to her! Told her to forgive me. And she said I don't trust you or forgive you. Hearing back our conversation, I don't understand how she manipulated me. She gaslighted me good. After her blaming me for her cheating and walking away from our marriage because I should not have told her family about her affairs. She said she would have still been at home with me. But because I told her family about her cheating, I ruined her life. She made threats that if I continue pursuing her, she will divorce me and regret that she "gave" me our daughters. At the time of the phone call, I can hear myself how easily I took the blame for everything. So now hearing back, I felt stupid.

I decided on that day that I will STOP pursuing her and do a NC. So I have not talked to her or seen her since that day. I feel so much better and feel good too.

Now regarding yesterday. I pick up my daughter from her apartment. My D10 tells me she is very angry at her mother. I asked her why. She tells me that mommy is talking to 3 different men. She made plans to spend time with a man after work. My D10 says my mom is a cheater and a liar. I was hurt by her comment and her revelation. I wanted to call her mom and tell her off. But I did not. I let it go. I just continue on with my day. I did go and turn the shower on when I got home and cried. I was hurt to know my WW has now 3 men in her life whom I know she is having sex with. I wanted to go to her apartment last night and break down the door and confront her and her boyfriend. But I know I will lose my daughters if I did.

I am at 9 days with NC. It feels like months. I miss the old her so much. I don't know who is this woman at all.

I am still going to church, riding my motorcycle and spending all my time with my daughters. I have made my daughters my priority.