I was really bad at it; in fact, I was a complete pansy. But, my wife taught me well and I learned how to quell the spew. Most of the WW's power is based on your fear; once you've lost that fear, then she's lost her grip on you.
I feel as if the pit is less frequent and I am starting to come to grips with my life not including her in the future. I love her deeply but I also have serious concerns about our future should we reconcile. I guess that is cause for worry later on.
