"I would never fully forgive her for everything she has done, and be able to trust her again."
You could.
Yeah, I wonder that too.... if I really wanted to. But it would be hard, too hard. All the terrible things she said to others, in the original OFP, to the kids... all the money she cost us, the greed in the D, etc. etc. I visualize being with xW, even after being back together for years, and something would remind me of the costs.... Something we couldn't afford, something we used to have but had to get rid of, the time we spent apart, the fun things we could have done together but missed out on, missed out on being a family, the kids still being uneasy about us being together... I've read some of the stories, it sounds like too much work to try to repair that much damage, it would never be like it was, it would likely never be better than it was.
Originally Posted By: Zephyr
hey OFP, sounds very frustrating with the IC session. Because i don't remember (or maybe you haven't said), who's idea was it to see your Wife's IC? Do you have any expectation of getting any clarity from that?
It was very much xW's idea for us to do coparenting counseling, because of all the things she thought I was saying to the kids. I went to see her IC on my own to see if it seemed like he would be able to be neutral.
Originally Posted By: Zephyr
I've seen a couple of times you have posted that you choose not to spend time with people, but are happy to spend time with someone in a romantic fashion...have i read into that correctly?
are you comfortable hanging out with a group of guys, talking, hanging out, screwing around, that sort of thing? What about just you and someone else? you have listed a bunch of times you hanging out with female friends, but not male ones. There was a while where i didn't go out with anyone but my brothers (and even that was limited).
there wasn't anything wrong with that, after all it was my choice to make...i am just saying now, that i go hang out with different groups (guys, couples, mixed) i am having more fun than i could have ever imagined possible. looking back seams almost absurd to me that i hadn't done this sooner.
I hope you have a good week. will catch up soon.
I honestly don't care to spend that much time hanging out with anyone, except a GF. Otherwise I'd rather be alone, work on projects, etc. Hanging out with family once in a while is good, but not too often or for too long, or I feel an overwhelming desire to "go for a walk" or something else to get away. I talk to my brother or sister on the phone a fair amount, or FF#2. I rarely talk to my coworkers while at work, I keep to myself there too.
Part of the challenge with being with any guys, is a total lack of things in common. I don't watch TV, or have anything to do with sports, or hunting and fishing. Doesn't leave much for subjects to talk about.
My week is going fairly well. Picked up the kids Tuesday night, took Wednesday and Thursday off, and went camping with the kids and GF. It was really nice. Had to return them Thursday, get them back tonight and will head back to camping through Monday night.
