Thank you Mach1 for your comments, thoughts and advice. It is nice to have someone that has gone through to the other side share.
You ask why I might feel withdrawing is my way.
This is a good question and one I debate with myself over frequently. Some say I am introverted, but I have extroverted tendencies. I feel more at peace and it requires less energy when I am alone and reading or engaged in activities of the mind. I enjoy people, but typically I feel like an outsider. I prefer to listen and observe more than engage and participate. Although I do get caught up over talking when a topic of interest may arise. I am challenged in creating balance. I over think and feel pressure to "perform" in the moment, where I feel more confident when I have time to process it all. I mention in the previous post my childhood constant moving and that may be where I picked up bad rendancies. I am aware of the challenge. I want to change it and seek out ways to do so.
So you have determined that we have met ?
I'm thinkin that we are pretty similar in that regard...downright scary similar in fact...
I recharge from the inside out, I NEED, not want, quiet time with myself.
Trouble is,at times, I also crave the "noise"...
Maybe look at validation ....( I know what worked for me)
What areas do you NEED validation, WANT validation, CRAVE validation...
HOW do you validate, and how do you feel validated
???
Originally Posted By: SH_
OPS. Now that is something I will remember. I appreciate the way you put it here. I know coming in I was desperate to find a sitch that was like mine. Maybe because I could find answers that way. Maybe so I did not feel alone in my struggle. Or maybe, I wanted to just prove to myself I was not crazy and completely at fault. I don't know that I have found any just like my sitch. I have found similarities. But not the exact same. Your point about reading in and then matching it to me or my sitch does have meaning to me. I backed off on reading some material, because I started to take general info and make it match me and my sitch. I wanted answers and it could find them, or as you say, I would start acting in a manner so it would match. So, if I u destined you correctly, a good approach is to back up a little. Look inward and clarify things inside without the " taint" of so many other ideas and suggestions. This can help me pin down more " truth" and clarity of what it is I am up against from within. Then I can better win the battle inside by working on what I know to be true and accurate. Now this make sense.
It's like an out of body experience...
Find the vision of who you are, and are working toward becoming, and let that guide you...
Being brutally honest with yourself will help you see past OPS. You will inventory what baggage is yours, and what isn't yours...
It will also help you detach from the other crazy in your life. Let her carry her own luggage, while you carry your own.....
Be honest with yourself about your goals, and HOW you are trying to achieve them...
And try NOT to borrow trouble from the future...
Especially if it isn't yours....
Originally Posted By: SH_
Alright, maybe I won't STFU when I see disrespect as there really is no place for this regardless. But I will speak up in a calm manner and step back from the tantrum u till the cooler heads can prevail.
You do what is right for you.
I will always fight for the integrity of these boards...
Because of what they did for me...
I've been here for almost 9 years. Not because I needed to be...
Because I don't feel that I can ever repay enough back to them...
Originally Posted By: SH_
Thank you Mach1 for the vote of confidence and support.
I do have an idea what the hero will do next in this story. I have a why, and now I must take action. I know the strongest hero stories typically have the hero that must conquer oneself, before facing the foe. I know in my heart, that this I must do. There are some good people counting on me.
Including yourself....please don't forget that...
Originally Posted By: SH_
"The first and best victory is to conquer self. To be conquered by self is, of all things, the most shameful and vile." ~Plato
Quote guy huh ?
How about.....
God gives you exactly the problems that you need, in order to fix yourself....
